Yes if you leave your screwed. Definitely call the cops if it's warranted. Then make a paper trail and get a peace bond put against her. Make a paper trail and document as much as you can. If things are bad follow your lawyers advice all the way broThanks. Worst part is I have a lawyer, and she told me that as soon as I leave..."Your Screwed". " Take the abuse, but if she hits you, or throws something at you, call the cops". Her words. I prefer to use "Police", as that's what I went to school for.
I've heard a lot of horror stories, but for every plan I have, I also have a back up plan...A what if plan. Even if she gets everything, I can dump my company and become an employee. Then she would still only be able to get 1/2 through garneshment. I'd be able to keep enough to live on... What if... And the aquarium is in my mom's garage, so she can't get that. Ha ha...
I was told if it's the big "D". Get a lady lawyer. They know how to play hard ball with other women...and don't back down as easily.
Thanks for the support.
I truly know what you mean by thriving on conflict.If you have kids it's messy.
If not than easier.
I did mediation, you still require your own lawyer. Try to be accommodating (pretty hard at this point)
Appeal to her monetary side and explain she'll get more without lawyers and let her have any stuff she wants. Because it's only stuff. Get the legal separation and agreement drawn up.
I gave my ex at least 60% any stuff she wanted to a degree, but I never had a cant live without stuff mentality. We have a son together so it was rough dozen years until he turned eighteen.
I found that she like to fight and thrived on conflict, she still does but I found pushing back only caused more issues. Kindness but firmness goes a long way and silence is sometimes the only way to make someone listen.
Good luck, think of it as a new beginning and if you're like me in time your only regret is that you didn't end it sooner.
I can completely relate bro. It feels like death. I had the worst divorce of anyone I know . I drank to cope( obviously not the best idea) . The pain was unfathomable. But we get through. I came out on top met a great girl 12 Years ago and still together. Keep us up to date on what's going on. I know exactly how you feel. You wanna chat pm me.it helps to blow the steam.Thanks guys for the support. Starting to wonder when the Ban Hammer will fall...